Adjust Your Sails

The pessimist complains about the wind;

the optimist expects it to change;

the realist adjusts the sails.

Willaim Arthur Ward

Every day I work with people who either are complaining about life or waiting for life to change.  You do not grow and progress this way and often the winds of life do not accommodate you. 

Ask yourself these questions on any situation you are complaining about:

1.  Do I have any control of it?   If not..  you need to let it go and move on.  Why worry about things you cannot control?

2.  How much control do you have?  Give it a number 10% .. 50%   Really think about it. Identify your areas of control in the situation. 

3.  Withe the __% control you have, are you honestly doing everything you can within that percentage?

4.  If yes.... let it go.. you are already doing what you can... life has to many other things you need to focus on.

     If no... well then.. you have work to do and you don't get to complain because you, yourself, are not doing everything you can.

Apply this formula and life will improve.  I have had people say.. well what if you have a life threatening illness or something else horrrible?   The formula still applies.  Are you doing everything you can within the control you have?  If no, get busy.  If yes, focus your energy where it is important.  If your days on this plane are numbered, them make every single hour count.  Say your I love yous.  Say your I am sorrys.  Offer forgiveness.  Fretting on what you cannot change will not make those last hours precious, only miserable. 

Adjust your sails!! Life is to short to live in misery.